First You Must Cry...

Have you ever had a time when you surprised yourself as you found tears slowly rolling down

your face or even more dramatically, you suddenly burst into a loud heartfelt cry? I can relate to both of these situations especially over this year of letting go. How about you? For me, the last few weeks those episodes have increased. They are to the point where I have become reminiscent of sudden crying jags I had as a child that were so bewildering to me and of the emotional tearful moments during my pregnancies that I easily blamed on my hormones. I believe the energies of the recent full moon eclipse as well as the 9/9/9 portal have ramped up the opportunities for us to release what no longer serves us and crying is our signal to pay attention to what is coming up for us to release. These current tearful times have made me become curious about their origin. I have started to take notice of when they appear and have begun to ask myself, “why does the happy news of a child and parent reunion result in just as many tears as the news of a celebrity death?” After resisting the attempt to question my sanity, my inner voice tells me there is much to learn from these “water works.” Can you relate at all? Have the recent energies of release brought tears to your eyes? Do you find that tears are close to the surface ready to overflow at any moment? How often are you blinking them back and swallowing that lump in your throat? Whatever your experience, what are those tears trying to tell us? Let's take a closer look…

Who Are You Crying For?

Looking back at those sudden bewildering episodes of crying that I experienced as a child, I now know that, as an empath, those episodes where in response to the emotions of others that I was feeling. As an Empath, when we feel someone else’s sadness, grief, loneliness, or deep emotional pain, the tears that we release may in fact be a response to the emotions of others. It is important then, for those of us who are Empaths, to remember to ask our intuition/higher self whether what is creating the tears is even ours. When the answer is “no,” we can then make sense of the situation and begin to send healing to the source of the tears. As we do that, we no longer feel the need to cry.

But what if we are crying for ourselves? What are we crying in response to? What are the tears signaling to us? Ae they an emotional trigger recalling a buried trauma? Are they a response to physical irritation or pain we are experiencing in the moment? Are they an expression of frustration, sadness, or depression? Are they how we express fear? Do we have our own loss or grief that we are working through? On the later side, we could also be experiencing tears of joy, happiness, gratitude, or love. Whatever the cause, our bodies tears are bringing us a message. It is up to us to dig deep and decipher that message.

Tears of Trauma

Most often we think of tears as a response to physical or emotional trauma. For example, when a child falls and scrapes their knee, or an adult endures severe episodic pain or relentless chronic pain, they may cry “because it hurts.” Physical causes of trauma are often readily identified and remedied. Emotional trauma can have many sources. When a child is yelled at and disciplined, or an adult is experiencing severe loneliness, they may cry. Sometimes the emotional trauma is connected to loss or grief. Crying may express sadness or depression that is rooted in some much deeper trauma. Even physical pain in the body, when a physical cause cannot be found, is likely rooted in emotional trauma. The emotional trauma may be from this lifetime, a past life, the ancestral line, or the collective consciousness. In any of these or a multitude of other traumatic situations, the tears are a signal, or rather a cry for help. They are a sign of needing attention, assistance, or comfort. They are a compass pointing us in the direction of a trauma that is in need of release.

Owning Our Tears

Crying is first just a signal from the body to its owner. Our first responsibility is to ourselves, and our body’s tears are telling us that we have something to address. We are responsible for the trauma we hold. We are the only ones that can resolve and release that trauma. We each have our own timeline for addressing what no longer serves us and crying is our trigger telling us that the time is now. Therefore, the most important response to our crying is first to acknowledge it and to honor it. We can even be grateful to our body for signaling to us the perfect timing for releasing trauma. How do you respond to your crying?

Spirit tells us that the act of crying is not only a trigger, but it is also the very first release. Very

often the tears have been bottled up for a very long time. When they finally begin to flow, they are bringing with them the first pieces of the emotional response to the trauma. As we pause and give ourselves time, we can begin exploring the root of our tears by simply asking “Why?” “Why am I crying?” You may find a simple answer with the very first “why,” or you may need to repeatedly ask “why” until you get to a deeper root. For example, self questioning may go something like this:

• Why am I crying? Because I am sad & frustrated.

• Why am I sad and frustrated? Because my friends don't like me.

• Why don't my friends like me? Because I'm stupid.

• Why do I think I'm stupid? Because that's all I've ever been told my whole life. I guess I don't deserve to be around other people. I'm not smart enough to have any friends.

In this example, the answers received through the higher self will always be honest and in the person’s highest good. As above, the last response reveals a core belief that is the root of sadness and frustration that was expressed through crying. The crying is telling the person that it is time to release that core belief. It is time for this person to understand that what they were told by others was not true. It is time for them to understand that they have taken on the judgment of others but that it does not reflect who they truly are. It is time for the person to release that judgmental core belief and to replace it with a remembering that they come from the light of Source and are perfect as they are. Can you release any roots to your crying this way?

Reach Out

Whatever a person’s need, crying can also be a signal, an attempt to connect with someone or something else. For example, an infant cries to secure a response from its caregiver. An adult may cry to invite a consoling hug from a loved one. In most cases, that human to human interaction begins to bring relief from or release of the cause of the crying. For instance, when the infant is fed by the caregiver, the discomfort from hunger is relieved and the crying stops. Sometimes the responder to the tears is a beloved pet. I know, our family pets will nestle into anyone who is upset until the love they are pouring out to you is almost physically palpable.

When the root of our crying is more complex and we cannot get to it on our own, we need to reach out to a trusted family member, friend, or healer for assistance and guidance. They may create a safe space for you to reflect, prompt you with questions to go deeper or find clarification and provide a broader non-judgemental perspective for you to gain understanding of what is needed to be released. Lastly, they may provide some strategies for release as well as support for the process. At anytime during the process, we can also reach

out to Spirit for support and guidance. That support can be acquired through meditation, prayer, journaling, connecting with nature, or simply having a casual conversation with your angels, guides, and other members of your spiritual team. Giving yourself the time to be still to create this connection and to listen to the messages that you receive is important. You are important and the love from Source is always there supporting you in every leg of your journey. Spirit wants to be clear though, that whatever assistance you secure, the releasing of the root cause of the crying, the healing of the trauma can only be done by you.

Tears of Joy and Love

Spirit also wants to remind us that crying isn't all bad. Often, we experience tears of joy, and it is those types of tears that we strive to have more of. I heard a beautiful recommendation the other day that I would love to pass on to you and that is to take several pauses of five minutes each day to sit in joy. Too often our thoughts and feelings are wrapped up in the latest catastrophic news story, our “To Do List,” and other less joyful distractions that we experience throughout the day. In those five-minute pauses find a quiet place to relax, breathe deep, remember and relive a joyful experience you have had. Feel the feeling attached to the memory. Have you ever laughed so hard you cried? Do you remember how that felt? Allow the joy you remember to fill your heart fully and expand your light throughout your body and into your energetic field. Hold that joy in your heart as you go through throughout your day. If it begins to slip away give yourself a treat of another five-minute pause to retrieve it. This may feel like a difficult task at first but as we become more mindful in the present we can see very quickly when we fall out of joy. We owe it to ourselves to recapture it as often as possible. Spirit is telling us that if that joy brings tears allow them to flow. They are the overflow of the joy that fills our heart. How many joyful moments can you recapture everyday?

The most beautiful tears to experience are those that stem from overwhelming love and

gratitude. That can be the love that we hold for another or the love that we are receiving. For example, each time I look into the eyes of my beautiful grandchildren my heart overflows with love for them, a lump comes to my throat, and tears spring up in my eyes. I am overwhelmed by the love that I hold for them. Likewise, when I pull back from the business of the day when interacting with my children, their partners and my husband, I am truly filled with gratitude for having them in my life. That gratitude and love for them overflows in tears and runs down my face. Do you have people in your life where the love you hold for them brings tears to your eyes? If so, hold them close and never deny your tears. They are an expression of love.

Tears can also flow when we are on the receiving end of that beautiful unconditional love. For some of us, especially those of us who are healers, we have a little bit of difficulty in receiving love. For me, I am so grateful to have such a loving family give me daily opportunities to receive the love they hold for me. When I pause long enough to allow myself to really feel that love in my heart it brings me to tears. Those same tears spring up when I feel the presence of my angels and guides. Although I receive their messages on a regular basis, when I again pause an allow myself to really feel their presence, their overwhelming love brings me to tears.

Let The Tears Flow

So, when Spirit gave me the title for this blog, I wasn't sure which direction it would go. It appears that they wanted to reassure us that as our world continues in chaotic swirls, as we evolve and become more energetically sensitive, our tears will serve us well. Spirit is reminding us that we have a job to do in this lifetime on this planet. All of us have a purpose

to fulfill and those of us who are actively working on traveling along our spiritual path are here to help others who are just beginning that journey. As we work through this ninth month in a nine universal year, a time of intense release, our work is to dig deep to release what no longer serves us so that we may fill that space with more light to shine for others. As we release, we also bring in more love and joy for ourselves. And so, remember, as part of that work, Spirit is telling us today “First you must cry.”

Sending you love and light,

Marilyn

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